Song of Solomon 2:15 states, "Catch the foxes for us, the little foxes that are ruining the vineyards, While our vineyards are in blossom." (NASB) The main way that this verse is often interpreted is that anything that would spoil a couple's relationship (the little foxes) must be caught and dealt with, however small they may appear to be. The couple is urged to “catch the foxes” in their relationship, even though they are small and do not seem like much of a problem. The couple needs to identify and remove areas which will destroy their relationship even if they seem small. If left in the vineyard, these foxes may slowly destroy the lovers love.
I am no philosopher but one thing I have learned is that for many individuals, their eyes are a literal mirror to their soul, or the condition of their heart. For example, if they are happy or hurt, content or frustrated, "in love" or upset, and etc. I have seen eyes truly "sparkle" and also be, unfortunately, dead and cold. Eye contact in communication can tell an individual if everything is great, good. or if there may be an issue or problem that needs to be settled. Truly knowing your significant other is essential in the success of a relationship, but more so is the ability to opening communicate to each other. What are Little Foxes? Some examples include, but are not limited to: 1. Personal sin kept from your spouse/significant other. A huge truth here; a quote from one of my favorite trilogy movies, Men In Black 3, "The harshest truth is better than the sweetest lie." Be honest and transparent to your spouse and in all relationships. In an article by Debate.org (Lies and Truth), the author states, "The truth helps people cope and deal with reality. A lie only prolongs change which in the end change will happen as change is inevitable. " 2. Hiding something from your spouse or significant other. For example, hiding a purchase or ones spending practices, not telling them you have been hurt by something they may have said, etc. 3. Not telling the whole truth. Remember, a 1/2 truth is a whole lie because it is not full disclosure. Imagine going outside 1/2 dressed, you could still get arrested for indecent exposure. 4. Ignoring a problem between the two of you. This is called the "Elephant In The Room" scenario. It is where a couple continues walking around the problem or ignoring the problem and it never gets solved. It only magnifies and gets bigger and causes more problems/damage. For example, if a garden hose has a pin hole leak, over time if the hose is not remedied or fixed, the hose will rupture and no longer be usable. Couples and relationships must solve problems and issues immediately. 5. Personal insecurities - share your needs, wants, and desires with your spouse. They are supposed to be your best and closest friend. Plus, never share with others what you would not share with your spouse. It is a nightmare if you find out something your spouse said/did/purchased from someone else and you are clueless about it. Some others....(below was taken from Marriage.com) (link) "Bedroom" differences, Values and beliefs, Life stages, Traumatic situations, Stress, Boredom, Jealousy, Trying to change each other, Communication problems, Lack of attention, Financial issues, Lack of appreciation, Technology and social media, Trust issues, Selfish behavior, Anger issues, Keeping score, Lying. Relationships are supposed to be a taste of heaven on Earth. If it is not, it is NEVER to late to start, fix, or solve the issue. Any and all things are possible.
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Author(s):Kevin and Mabel are a Ameri-Pino couple. He is American and she is Filipino. These are our thoughts and reflections about our lives and relationship together. Archives
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