![]() Moments together as a couple, friends, husband/wife, or relatives, communication is always essential to their success. I love reading articles, books, or even having conversations about life lessons and changing my life actions about things that will obviously benefit me and my family personally and professionally. Just like the popular quote, "life is not a dress rehearsal", it really is the/our final exam. We do not get a "do over". We must live purposely, intently, and with passion. One thing I have learned, communication is the overall key to success; no matter whether it is personally or professionally. If you do not have real transparency, there is no direction, no intimacy, no effective relationship because "the left hand doesn't know what the right hand is doing". This is one specific concept I want to master. A brilliant quote I read in an article about marriage maintenance from Marriage Today stated, "We fall in love through talking—and communication is how we stay in love, too." My goal and hope is to truly focus on the deeper types of communication part of my marriage relationship; Connection, Personal Revelation, and Intimate Communication. Are we connecting? Are we sharing our innermost thoughts and emotions? Are we communicating intimate feelings and affection? For me personally, and I have not gotten there yet, these are one of the avenues to a successful marriage; the CONNECTION in communication. Examples of the 3 major points of communication are the following: 1. Connection: This is huge in marriage. In a healthy relationship, it’s easy to connect with one another. You can do it through eye contact, through physical affection, and through the words you say to one another. As individuals, we are designed to seek connection. 2. Personal Revelation: This involves truly sharing with each other. Open up about your/my feelings, opinions and my emotions. This type of communication lets your spouse into your world. Since life is not always "Roses", another healthy idea is to process negative feelings together. For example, letting off steam after a bad day at work or even processing anger related to the relationship. Most importantly is to not let anger or frustration fester. Share what is bothering you. No individual can stand alone, even Superman needed help. Share what hurt your feelings. Instead of dwelling on them, work through them with your spouse. 3. Intimate Communication: Expressions of love, words of affection, whispers of “I love you.” These are statements that no one else will say to your spouse. These words bind your hearts together and build the kind of closeness that keeps a marriage strong. Many couples start their marriage strong and communicate at each of these levels. Tragically, before long, they can find themselves only communicating basic information. *I say "NO!" I want to live my live and marriage to the fullest. She is my heart, my true best friend, and the one I want to share every day with. I will fight for her and US! My favorite expression we share is, "I LOVE US!"
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Author(s):Kevin and Mabel are a Ameri-Pino couple. He is American and she is Filipino. These are our thoughts and reflections about our lives and relationship together. Archives
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