Our first update focuses on what we, Mabel and I, have established as our top priorities in our relationship. When we first started talking, it was amazing how similar we were in what our hopes were in a relationship. One of the first things we did was to learn each others "Love Language". This is a simple 7-10 minute questionnaire (by Gary Chapman - The 5 Love Languages) that identifies what each individual values in their relationship in the way they desire to be loved.
At the time of this writing, we are celebrating 9 months together as a couple. Over our many conversations, we have learned a lot about each other and know that we are still only scratching the surface of who we are. Each individual is multi-faceted and we have committed ourselves to each other, but more so, our relationship together with God. We are both evangelical Christians and know that our relationship with God is priority and must take precedence in order to keep our relationship with each other on the right track and going the right way. We talked about what is essential to us (Our Marriage Core Values) and we created our "Priority List". Our items are listed in order of importance and are regularly addressed so we do not lose focus on our relationship with each other. Our Priorities for our healthy relationship include: 1. God (personal relationship & together devotions/prayer time) 2. Putting the other first (Prefer them - not selfishness) 3. Communication (Honesty & Transparency - Share everything) 4. Emotional connection (being real best friends and loving) 5. Physical connection 6. Never going to bed unsettled (if there is a problem, settle it immediately before bedtime) unless absolutely necessary for time to "think" or reflect on the issue, but resolve it ASAP. An Extra Blog Nugget... The 4 A's to a FOUREVER (Forever) MARRIAGE: Affection, Attention, Affirmation, and Appreciation.
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Author(s):Kevin and Mabel are a Ameri-Pino couple. He is American and she is Filipino. These are our thoughts and reflections about our lives and relationship together. Archives
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