![]() We have heard these 4 words, "Once Upon a Time", many, many times as the beginning of a bedtime story. For most all of us, these words are the traditional beginning of a fairy tale. Unfortunately, fairy tales carry the connotation of untrue, false, or impossible events that happen. They are seen as fantasies, dreams, or unpractical hopes. I love to tell stories. It gives you the chance to create your own narrative, to dream, and ultimately control the moral of the story. This concept is not really life practical, but for me it gives me the opportunity to think out loud and let my heart open up freely and allow my "creative side" to breathe. One of the fun things about "Once Upon a Time" is the typical story of a prince, princess, a villain, and the ultimate happy ending. The two main characters join together, defeat the enemy/villain, and live happily ever after. How is this concept a fairy tale? It is the hope of every couple, marriage, and family. The "fairy tale" as they say is definitely an achievable story. The problem for most everyone is the answer to the question of How? The answer is not about romanticized tales of perfect body, hair, etc., but having genuine joy and peace in the middle of a mess or disaster. Possible answers to How include the following: 1. The Prince and Princess MUST ask the KING (God) to be a part of their marriage, union, and family. Fragile moments can be fortified. All things can be worked out. 2. Be selfless. Selfishness is so easy to choose because you honor yourself and get what you want. Selfishness is poison, "rat poison", to any relationship. 3. Prefer the other. Choose them not ourself. "Love, honor, and cherish". 4. Communicate openly and transparently. Our prince or princess is supposed to be our very best friend. I have seen (and heard) ladies that literally share everything together, even the deepest personal secrets. If we are not doing this with our spouse, then there is a major disconnection. Our prince or princess should know our deepest passions, desires, hopes, dreams, and especially our struggles. Sharing together, building together, discovering together, and When two work together, they will get a better return. They share security, strength and warmth. **There is no worse feeling than falling and the other allowing you to stay down or fallen and watch you struggle to stand again, alone. 5. Tear down molehills to prevent future mountains or even avalanches. "I do" is only day one. Day two, three, four and 2000+ starts by saying, “I still do.” Choosing permanence in a marriage and proclaiming "I will" and "I must" to ourselves when it comes time to practice the promises we made. Vows represent what we work toward and strive for throughout our entire marriage and relationship. CHOOSE US! Don't make the mistake of judging yourselves by others peoples relationship. Their relationship DNA is totally different that your relationship DNA. Always CHOOSE US, ALWAYS!!
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Author(s):Kevin and Mabel are a Ameri-Pino couple. He is American and she is Filipino. These are our thoughts and reflections about our lives and relationship together. Archives
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